| Fielder’s Choice By Barry Burleson Letting go is really tough I did not cry – at least on the outside. Our first child has officially left home to attend the University of Southern Mississippi in Hattiesburg. She
and I took to the road first Friday morning for move-in day at
Mississippi Hall, the Honors College dormitory at USM. Pam and Andy
followed later. Both vehicles were filled with supplies, clothes and
other what we considered dorm necessities. The
ride south on I-55 was a special one that I will always remember. It
was some valuable time together for father and daughter, discussing a
wide array of topics. We did not relive the past much at all. We were more focused on the future. I told her things like, “Be sure and find where your classes meet before the first day of classes.” And the typical response to that and most other things was, “Daddy, I know that.” I still have a hard time realizing she’s 18. We
arrived about 2:30 p.m., and it was much hotter in south Mississippi
than it was in the northern corner of the state when we left. Her dorm room is on the second floor. We
went to take a look at the space first, prior to unloading. It was
small – smaller than expected – and we started contemplating the best
way to arrange the two beds and the two desks. Then it was back down the stairs and up and back and up – again and again. I thought the second floor proved to be a difficult task, until I saw several parents taking items to the third floor. At one point, when I saw a vacant spot, I moved Emma’s vehicle a bit closer to the front door of Mississippi Hall. We rested a bit after that round of unloading – waiting on Pam and Andy and continuing to think about how to arrange things. We
moved the beds and the desks around a few times and then finally
decided on the best set-up for the furniture. We walked to get Emma’s
Post Office box and her books. We waited on the
second load of items – mostly clothes. Plus, there was a small piece of
furniture with drawers aboard Pam’s vehicle which Emma and I had
already decided would have to just make the return trip to Holly
Springs – no space. After getting everything we had up the stairs to the room, we made a list of things she needed. She
had a “get acquainted” pizza party to attend, so the rest of us went
shopping and returned with more musts – like a printer for her computer
and a small desk chair. Emma was having a great
time meeting new people, which was great, but we managed to get her
back to the room long enough to check out the room’s progress. She was
pleased. It was about 8:30 p.m. by this point. We had to drive to Jackson for the night. The difficult and dreaded part of the trip had arrived – time to say goodbye. I gave her a huge hug – a long hug. I did not want to let go. I went to start the vehicle while Pam and Emma shared a few special moments together. Driving off, we waved bye. A good friend told me – “It’s tough but you have to let go.” For
me, it got tougher Sunday night when I went downstairs at home and the
door to Emma’s vacant room was open. I closed the door and it all
suddenly sank in.
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