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The Preacher’s Corner By Rev. Dr. Milton Winter When the bogeyman showed up, was I surprised! Lilly Grace, one of my little Presbyterians, is just
at the age where she is ready to come to “big church.” Some weeks she
chooses the nursery, other weeks, she comes to worship with us. A
couple of Sundays back, she told her grandmother that she wanted to go
to “talking church.” Now, as the preacher, I thought this meant the
service I lead. After all, I do a good bit of talking during that hour.
But Lilly Grace likes the church where she can talk, which means the
children’s nursery! Isn’t it remarkable how different our perspectives
in religion can be? Last Sunday I preached about
our religious habits (there I go talking again), and after service
someone asked me how I acquired the habit of being in church on Sunday.
That is, was I required to attend as a child, and do I believe that
children ought to be required? I do not believe
that my family had rules on this subject. It was just that every Sunday
the entire household gathered itself up and went to church. I do not
recall that it was debated or argued about. It was just something we
did. Just as Mother and Daddy went to work on Monday, and I went to
school, so we went to church on Sunday. The thought of “making a
decision” about whether or not to go was just not part of my childhood
experience. The TV was turned off, the lights were turned off, the
house was locked, and everybody went to church. It was as simple as
that! Now, I do recall one incident in which I
suppose I was trying to assert my independence. That is a normal part
of growing up, and I will tell you how my parents handled it in my case. I
could not have been more than six or seven years old, and I had
wandered home during the interval between Sunday school and church.
Grandmother, Daddy, and I were the Sunday school attenders. Mother
stayed home to get dinner lined up, so I would often come home with
Daddy to pick Mama up. As there were 20 minutes between Sunday school
and church, and it was exactly one block from our house to the church,
it was not a difficult or time-consuming journey. On
this day I decided I wanted to stay home during church. “You’ll be all
by yourself!” I was warned. But I was determined to stay home, and so
Mother and Daddy drove off. Since my grandmother and our family cook
were always at home during the week (I never remember having a
babysitter outside the family), I would imagine this may have been just
about the first time I was ever left alone. For
the first few minutes it was a great feeling of freedom. But then --
amazingly -- “the bogeyman” made his appearance! Until then, I had
encountered the bogeyman only at bedtime or late in the night. But on
this day, the bogeyman decided to share my solitary Sabbath with me.
What an unwelcome guest! So I abandoned the house
where the bogeyman was, and took refuge in my backyard swing. There,
with my little fox terrier (that Skipper was the first in a long line
of terriers I have had through the years) standing guard, I passed the
longest hour I think I have ever spent. Boy, I was glad when the car
turned into the driveway and chased the bogeyman away! I do not think
that except for illness I have ever willfully skipped church again. Religion
was certainly laid before me and was a natural part of my life. It was
never forced; it was simply there for me to take or leave. But I
suppose because it was a family activity, I never felt that it was
something I was given as a singular burden to bear. I
cannot say that my childhood religious experience was either
distasteful or ecstatic. But our minister and Sunday school teachers
were unfailingly kind, and I think I gleaned the impression that what
we did on Sunday was consequential, and that my life would be poorer
without it. Perhaps for that reason I have never had to wrestle with those wrenching questions about the existence or goodness of God.
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