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Preacher’s Corner
By Rev. Dr. Milton Winter
Cousin Fred
was the anchor of my Winter roots
Several months ago I went to Fulton, Ky.,
to take part in the funeral of my cousin Thomas F. Winter. Cousin Fred,
as we called him in the family, was my last Winter relative. He had
lived alone the past many years, and into his 80s we had suspected he
would go quickly, which according to his frequently-expressed wish,
he was blessed to do. He was independent and active to the end. For
what more could one ask?
In the last years when I grew interested
in such things, he was a wonderful source of information about our family
and its life in olden days. Most of the relatives had migrated away
from the old home place there in western Kentucky.
He was the anchor to our roots, and had
made the contacts each time to arrange for the interments of seven of
my immediate family members through the years at our old cemetery at
the beautiful tree-lined Oakwood Methodist Cemetery out in Hickman County.
How often I had made that drive up 51
Highway from Memphis to Fulton.
In the past few years I had made it a
resolve to make the journey for purposes other than final rites, and
so Cousin Fred and I had many wonderful visits, exploring some of our
common interests including local history and trains.
Cousin Fred’s father and brothers
were engineers on the I.C. Railroad, and doubtless provided the genetic
disposition for that hobby that brings much relaxation and pleasure
in my leisure hours. For them, however, the railroad meant work, and
I think that they might be amused at my recreational interest in the
company whose very name would inspire some of those men to curse.
As we moved toward the chapel for the
funeral service, I conversed with Cousin Fred’s pastor, the Rev.
Timothy Atkins, of First United Methodist in Fulton, and discovered
that he had begun his preaching ministry shortly before I came at the
Victoria United Methodist Church right here in Marshall County.
In his homily, he remarked that while
many at church knew Cousin Fred, remembered from his familiar presence
in the choir (he had recently retired, not wanting to miss a note due
to failing hearing), more would notice his absence the following Sunday
for a kindness most did not realize Fred performed.
For years, he noted, Fred had come up
to the church early and stayed behind afterward to lock and unlock the
doors, turn on the lights, and adjust the thermostats. He had always
anticipated what would be needed and saw to it that everyone else was
able to arrive and depart from God’s house in convenience and
comfort.
Immediately I thought of Psalm 84, “How
lovely is thy dwelling place, O Lord of hosts.” I often recite
the Psalm silently as I tend to the duties of opening and closing our
Holly Springs Presbyterian Church. I especially think of the line, “I
would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God, than to dwell in
the tents of wickedness.”
Sometimes our deacons perform this duty,
but I do not mind and actually rather like doing it. It is a kind of
“centering” exercise for me, enabling me to make sure everything
is like I want it for the upcoming service or activity, and to focus
my thoughts on what is to be said and done, and upon the people who
will be coming, for whose souls it is my responsibility to care and
to minister. These activities are usually done in the absolute quiet
of the empty church. Sometimes our organist, Mrs. Tate, is practicing
upstairs, and always I think her music is most beautiful in those moments.
I think of many people and many things
as I go about my habitual rounds. I pray for those who come often and
for those the church has not seen in a while. I am not very good at
praying while just sitting quietly with hands folded. In such moments
my mind tends to wander. But I can think of others and pray on their
behalf while I work. Opening and closing the church is one appointed
time when I can do that.
Perhaps Cousin Fred felt this also. I
shall never know because he had never told me of this little ritual
he performed. Perhaps he thought the task unimportant. Certainly, as
I knew him, this gregarious gentleman was eager to be early and to stay
late, so as to visit as much as possible with every single person who
passed through those church doors.
I do know this: I shall never pass another
Sunday opening and closing our church that I do not remember and be
grateful for Cousin Fred, and thinking that in doing what I am doing
just then, I am following in his footsteps, and performing a task that
he thought was important.
One can certainly be a Christian with
no family examples to inspire and to guide. But I am so grateful that
I have had many whose lives said to me, “This is the way, walk
ye in it.” My cousin Fred was not a rich man, but what he had
he gave.
Of course, as I said, he spoke
of none of this with me. But the greatest sermons, I think, are the
ones preached with no words.
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